“Obstacles aren’t in the way, they are the way” — Dr. Ron Hulnick
When it comes to the challenges we experience in life we often believe that they have the power to stop us from getting what we want.
Whether we feel like we have a job that doesn’t fulfill us, we are in a relationship where we have lost the feeling of connection, or we are looking for that perfect love we haven’t been able to find yet. We believe that these obstacles are in our way and if only we overcame them we could be happy.
What I have come to see is the opposite. Our obstacles are not in our way, but they are the way. They are the way for us to experience what we ultimately want in life in a more deeper level we though was possible.
They are the way for us to let go of our limiting beliefs, so that we can go beyond the misunderstanding where our happiness really comes from — And when we begin to see how this is true, not only overcoming the obstacles we are experiencing in life becomes more effortless, but we also learn to see how we already have what we are ultimately looking for.
We have always the power to see our situation in a new light
I used to look for love. I used to look for it in another person and in a perfect relationship. I thought that love was the only thing missing in my life and if only I found the relationship I was looking for I could be happy.
Somehow it never happened — No matter how much I was searching I never found that relationship I was looking for and felt the heaviness of this obstacle in my heart.
Then I came to understand that the love I was looking for I already had within me. I didn’t need anyone else to complete me anymore. After three months of my realization the relationship I had been looking for showed up into my life.
When I gained a deeper understanding of the way I saw my situation, not only I found my answers from within, but also my outside circumstances changed.
We have always the power to see our situation in a new light. The more we are willing to question our limiting thinking, the more we can see our challenges as a path for deeper learning, than something that can stop us from living our lives to the fullest.
Seeing your obstacles as a gift
My challenge of finding the relationship I had been looking for forced me to look within, where I found an unlimited source of love. My obstacle was here to tell me that I had been looking for love from all the wrong places and point me to the right direction.
Finding happiness and love within got me to regain my own power and show up in my relationships from the place of unconditional love. I learned that my happiness doesn’t depend on the other person and how he is not here to complete me — This opened me up to experience love over my expectations.
Whatever you look for, whether it’s a greater sense of wellbeing, a perfect relationship or a job that makes you feel fulfilled, your obstacles are here to guide you. They are here to help you to overcome your limiting beliefs, bring light where there is a misunderstanding and allow you to expand more to your true potential.
They are here to help you to see your own power and show you how you can have what you want — And more. They are here to show you what is there beyond what you are looking for.
What we are ultimately looking for
If you haven’t got what you wanted yet and feel discouraged, just know that it doesn’t have to mean that you won’t get there one day. It only means that you have been looking to the wrong direction and haven’t been able to see your own resourcefulness yet.
We have always the possibility to experience every situation in a new way —And when we do, our mind begins to open up. We begin to see our situation in a new light and notice things that we didn’t see before.
We begin to see more how we are already ultimately fine, regardless whether we get what we want — The acceptance that follows opens the door for us to see our challenges as a path for deeper learning. This path is for us to see how we already have what we are ultimately looking for.
When we let go of our limiting beliefs that we need to overcome our challenges, so that we can be happy, we begin to see how we have that happiness, fulfillment and love already within us. And somehow when we begin to see how this is true, also our outside circumstances change — It becomes much easier for us to receive what we were looking for in the first place.
Real change always comes from within
My obstacle of not finding the relationship I had been looking for became one of my biggest teachers and a gift, without I wouldn’t have been able to find the love that I was truly looking for — And when I first found the feeling of love within, finding the relationship I was looking for became effortless.
Real change always comes from within. It’s when we first begin to see our situation in a new light our outside circumstances change. — Not the other way around.
Many times we think that getting what we want is the direct path to get where we want to go, when in reality it might be a detour. We realize that the fulfillment that comes from reaching our goals is never lasting and instead of placing our happiness to another outer goal we want to look within.
Seeing that our obstacles are here to show us that there is something more for us to see, allows us to step our foot to a path that is more direct, stay open and allow life to bring in front of us whatever there is for us to see. This way we can find what we are looking for more effortlessly and see those challenges we experience as a gift that they truly are.
Our obstacles are not here to diminish our light — They are here to brighten it.
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