I remember when I first came across this understanding, I immediately began to experience greater levels of happiness and ease.
The biggest shift however I experienced one year later when my newly found understanding extended to our relationships.
I began to see how my experience of other people was not coming from out there, but it was always coming from within me. And that was when I felt like my experience of other people changed overnight.
Suddenly everyone I came in contact with were treating me with the level of kindness that I was not used to before. And it took a while for my intellect to catch up with the changes that I was experiencing.
I soon began to see how these new insights that I had started to experience were responsible for the change in my experience. These insights that both allowed me to view other people with more loving eyes, but also allowed me to self begin to show up more from that place of love and understanding.
I began to see how these insights were not only responsible for the change that I was experiencing, but also were only ever one thought away from everyone of us to experience.
Where does real change come from
If we want to experience change when it comes to our relationships, it’s helpful for us to understand where does real change from.
Most of us we are used to believe that change always requires hard work and effort. We are used to believe that in order for us to enjoy good relationships we need to work on our relationships. However whenever we think like that we don’t really understand what creates change in a deeper level.
We may be able to create some level of change with hard work and effort but that kind of change is hardly ever lasting. This is because the thinking behind our behavior has not changed.
The kind of change that I’m referring to however doesn’t only create a change in our outside circumstances, but also allows our whole experience to change.
For us to experience this kind of change we always need to go beyond the form and experience a shift in our own level of understanding.
Change that comes from within
When we learn to see where real change comes from, it becomes easier for us to stop standing on our own way so that change can occur more effortlessly.
We begin to see how real change always comes from within, through our own insights. When our level of thinking changes, our whole experience changes and that is when the way we show up in the world, the way we show up in our relationships, changes as well. And when the way we show up changes, the way other people respond to us starts to change as well.
When we begin to experience our own insights and access deeper levels of wisdom, we begin to view other people and our relationships with more understanding. From this place feelings of kindness, unconditional love, forgiveness and compassion naturally arise.
It simply stops making sense for us to hold onto our negative thinking anymore, the way we may be used to, because we begin to see what is more true.
And as a result of that, we begin to access these deeper feelings of love and connection and our relationships get affected.
Experiencing deeper feelings of connection
When we begin to see how the change that we want to experience always starts from within, it becomes easier for us to see that change indeed can be instant.
We begin to see how we are only ever one thought away from seeing our relationships and other people in a whole new light and with greater levels of understanding. And when the way we see others changes, we begin to show up more from that place of love and understanding and the way other people respond to us changes effortlessly.
Showing up from this place of love and understanding has a direct effect on others.
When we come from this place other people can feel this, which will allow them to relax more in our company. And from this place of relaxation they’ll be also able to access these same feelings of love and connection.
The potential of an instant change
I feel deeply grateful for the shift that I was able to experience when it comes to my relationships that changed the way I saw other people at once.
While not all change happens overnight, but for some of us change may be more subtle, it’s both soothing and insightful to be able to see that the potential is always there.
After my big shift both my understanding and relationships have been keeping on evolving and deepening allowing my love and understanding to reach new levels.
Experiencing the change that we want to experience when it comes to our life and relationships is only ever one thought, an insight away.
Understanding this allows us to relax more to the present moment and it’s in that place of present moment where we are most likely to experience our insights, these new shifts in our understanding. When our mind is calm enough, there’s actually space for those new thoughts to arise.
Can relationships change in a heartbeat?
The change that we are truly looking for — the change in our experience — is always instant. And the ripple effect of that will allow that change to affect the people around us allowing our love to deepen and us to experience greater feelings of connection.
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