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The freedom we have to choose compassion over judgement

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“The fear of facing ourselves is when we disconnect
And fall prey to illusions of separation
Unconditional love flows in when we are brave enough
To face our own souls through eyes of compassion
So it can then flow out and remind every soul
That they are love itself”

— from Explorations of a Cosmic Soul by Allie Michelle


I was reading this part of the poem from Allie Michelle earlier this week and it brought me back to the time when I first learned about the power of compassion. I was reminded by the beauty of compassion and the power behind it, when things were not going as planned and I found myself feeling judgmental.

Since then, what I have learned is that compassion is this beautiful gift we have that allows us to shift our focus from judgement to the feeling of love.

It allows us to go from taking things personally, to letting our perspective become wider, so that we can see the more objective side of every story.

It allows us to go from fear to love and reminds us of the fact that our experience is as fluid as our thinking is, and see the more truthful side of the story.

This post is an exploration of that power, an exploration of the power of compassion that allows us to see what is more true, and enjoy the good feelings that come along it.

Judgement, the sign that our thinking is off

Whenever we judge we are seeing our world in the moment from a very narrow perspective.

We are used to think that we feel these negative feelings because of something that is going on on the outside world — Because of the other person and our situation. But that’s never the case.

Judgement, or any other negative feeling we have, is a sign that our thinking is off.

We are seeing the world through a negative lens and experiencing the feelings as a result of that. Instead of seeing the bigger picture, our view is limited, our focus is in small details and we are taking things very personally.

Our thinking is off, and we don’t often recognize this because we are caught up in our thinking and experiencing the negative feelings that follow our thinking.

The freedom to choose compassion over judgement

We have the power to choose if we want to experience compassion over judgement — In every situation. When judgement separates us from others, compassion connects us.

When we judge we feel this feeling of separation and the negative feelings that follow our negative thinking. Not only do we not see the situation as clearly as we could with a more neutral mind, but also we don’t feel so good.

Compassion on the other hand connects us and allows us to let go of our negative feelings.

We begin to feel warm towards the other person and feel closer to them. The deeper understanding we have allows us to stay in our own wellbeing, and stay in the warm feelings of love no matter what situation we find ourselves in.

We have always the freedom to choose.

Compassion as a guide

Not only do we feel good when we choose compassion over fear and judgement, but we also see everything from a wider perspective.

We are able to step into the other person’s shoes, and the deeper understanding we have allows us to see everything more objectively.

We stop paying attention to the small details and are better able to see the bigger picture.

We have a better understanding of where the other person is coming from and how troubled action is always a result of troubled thinking.

This doesn’t mean that we need to tolerate bad behavior, but we do see the innocence behind it. We are all doing the best we can given to the thinking we have in the moment.

The common sense that comes with the feeling of compassion allows us to see more clearly and make the decisions that are good for us and other people.

Compassion, our way back to love

When we begin to see that whenever we judge another person, not only do we feel bad, but also don’t see the world clearly, our newly found understanding allows us to let go of that judgement and see the situation from a wider perspective.

Our understanding deepens and we begin to see our outside circumstances with more clarity. We begin to see where the other person is coming from and also where we are coming from.

Instead of feeling the separation, we begin to get a sense of the connection that exists between us all.

We are all here having this human experience and doing the best we can given to the thinking we have in the moment.

Compassion is our guide back home, back to love.

Compassion allows us to see ourselves and other people more clearly and it saves us from the destructive thinking of judgement.

We have always the freedom to choose compassion over judgement, and open ourselves up to a new, kinder reality.

Compassion gives us a more clear vision and is our way back home, back to love.

 

With love,
Heidi