“I don’t know what I was thinking. I was so in love that I couldn’t see clearly.”
Many times we believe that when we are in love we see the world through rose-colored glasses — Everything looks better than it really is.
We are happy.
Then, when months or years go by and relationships end, we begin to see things differently. We begin to question the feelings of love once felt and allow our present hurt paint our past experiences.
What if, when we were in love our heads were actually more clear than those days, months and years after when we look back in time?
What if when we are in love we are actually able to see other people, our surroundings and the reality more clearly, than afterwards when our minds are colored by analyzation and our thoughts about the past?
What if when we are in love, instead of seeing the other person through those rose-colored glasses, we are actually first time seeing them clearly for who they are.
The difference between love and our ideas about love
There’s a difference between love and what we many times believe that love is.
When I’m talking about love, I’m not talking about the kind of love when another person makes us happy. I’m not talking about needing love from the other person or the kind of love we can receive from someone else.
That’s all our ideas about love.
What I’m talking about is a feeling created within us, that we experience when our mind becomes still.
I’m talking about the connection that we can feel with another person.
I’m talking about unconditional love — That is really the only kind of love that there is.
What happens when we fall in love
When we fall in love we become more present.
We begin to listen to the other person and we are eager to get to know them better. We enjoy their company no matter what we are doing and feel connected to them.
We simply feel close to them, no matter what’s happening on the outside world.
What we many times don’t realize is that not only do we feel good in the company of the other person, but when we are present with them we are also able to see the other person more as they are — Without the filtering of our thinking.
We become able to meet them as they are and feel the connection that exists between two people.
When we lose our ability to be present
When time goes by we many times begin to take things for granted — And that is when we lose our ability to be present with the other person.
Instead of meeting our partner in the present moment and being eager to listen them and learn from them again, we begin to believe that we already know who they are.
We begin to believe that we know how they are and what they are going to say.
We lose our ability to listen and when it comes to seeing the other person, we begin to believe more our thoughts about the other person, instead of meeting them fresh again in the present moment.
We lose our ability to see the other person as they are.
When our thoughts stop us from seeing
So does love blind us really, or when we first fall in love do we actually see the other person more as they truly are?
How I see it, is that when in love we have this amazing ability to be present and see the other person more for who they are from their essence.
If we get into our heads (what many times happens when time passes and relationships end) we begin to see the other person and our relationships through our limited thinking.
Not only will it become harder for us to see them for who they are, but from this place, both us and the other person, we easily say and do things that are not aligned with who we are.
Who we truly are is the love we are able to feel when we meet the other person with fresh eyes again.
Love that allows us to see
We can never really experience our relationships or the other person as they are, because we experience life through our thinking.
But the clearer the mind we have and the more present is our being, the more we are able to experience the truthness of our existence and the connection that exists between us all.
The more we are able to see the other person with eyes wide open and open hearts, the more we are able to see them as they truly are.
And in those moments when we question — Was that really love at all? If there was the feeling of connection and seeing yourself in another person, just know that you were blessed to get a sense of another person’s true nature.
You were able to see the other person with the eyes of love — And those eyes are the eyes that bring us home to our true existence and show us the beauty of life — How life really is.
Love doesn’t blind us, but it clears our heads and allows us to see.