Why it pays off to share your positive feelings with your partner.

Why it pays off to share your positive feelings with your partner

Why it pays off to share your positive feelings with your partner.

I was in a hurry.

I was walking down the street in a fast pace when I felt it. This spontaneous feeling of love from within.

I reached my phone from my bag and wrote the words:

“Love you”

I pushed the send button and continued my way.

There’s this study that says that couples who share five times more positive than negative things with each other stay longer together.

This doesn’t surprise me.

We all have this power to choose what we put our focus on.

If we concentrate on the things that we don’t like on the other person, we’ll only end up finding more things we dislike. That’s simply how our brain works.

And on the other hand if we focus on the good. What we really enjoy in the other person, we’ll soon begin to find more and more things to enjoy.

The other person can feel this. They can feel where we are coming from. Whether we show up from that place of love and appreciation or judgement.

Whenever we show up from that place of judgement this doesn’t feel good to the other person. If they don’t understand what’s going on they may easily become defensive. They may begin to feel insecure.

And when we feel insecure we don’t do so well. We don’t do so well when it comes to our lives or relationships.

But on the other hand if we show up from that place of deep appreciation and love, this feels good to the other person.

It creates an opportunity to allow the other person to relax more in our company. And whenever we feel relaxed our mind is more quiet. We are automatically connected with that love within us and show up more as our best selves.

We create an opportunity for the relationship to start to spiral up.

Sharing our good feelings with one another will further allow the relationship to deepen.

Not only can the other person feel the difference, but they have also the opportunity to see it in the physical world. And on the other hand the more we look into the direction that what we appreciate on the other person, the more we strengthen those qualities in them.

When we show up from that place of love the person that we see in front of our eyes becomes this expression of love.

Whether we see them through the eyes of judgement or through the eyes of love, the person that we see in front of us is a reflection of our mind.

The more loving is our view, the more clearly are we able to see them for who they truly are. The more judgement is in our eyes, the more blurred is our vision and the more caught up we are in our own personal ways of viewing them.

Understanding this what it does to us is that it clears our heads.

It gives us an opportunity to drop our thinking and see the other person more as they are.

Pure love and understanding.

Sharing our emotions from this state becomes a celebration of this love.

It will further allow us to deepen the feeling of connection in our relationship, bring out the best in the other person and draw other beautiful things into our lives.

When we understand this sharing our good feelings with one another becomes our second nature. There’s nothing we need to try to do in order for us to experience better relationships.

But when we show up from that place of love and understanding, sharing these good feelings with one another comes naturally to us.

Becoming an expression of love and seeing that love in the other person comes naturally to us.

With love,
Heidi

Heidi Paavilainen

Sharing an understanding that allows us to connect more with that deeper part within us, so that we can find our own answers from within, find that greater sense of wellbeing and have relationships that feel good. Receive my weekly emails about love and wellbeing or learn more about my downloadable audios and one-on-one coaching program here.

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