One of the most beautiful and powerful things — that we many times don’t even realize that we have — is our ability to be resilient.
Whatever challenges and difficulties we face when it comes to our life and relationships, we have the power to overcome.
There’s this power within us that draws us back to balance, no matter of the challenges that we face and whether we are awake enough to realize this or not.
This power is within every one of us and always there for us.
And simply awakening to see how it is there, allows us to begin to see our challenges with a whole new understanding, relax more to the flow of life and enjoy both our relationships and life more fully.
Awakening to the deeper truth of our experiences
Before coming across this understanding whenever I was facing a challenge, life seemed dark to me. I was surrounded by these feelings of insecurity, what to do and how to go forward so that I could enjoy life again.
After coming across this understanding however when my understanding about life deepened, my whole experience changed.
I began to see how every challenge that I was experiencing was always a misinterpretation of the mind, when my level of thinking was low. Whenever I was experiencing a challenge and feeling stressed, my experience was purely coming from the level of the thinking that I was experiencing at that moment.
This simply understanding allowed me to begin to see my challenges with completely new eyes.
These challenges of mine stopped looking so concrete and I began to see how as soon as my thinking shifted, my experience would always change for better.
What creates our experience
I began to see how my thinking was always creating my experience — from moment to moment.
Whenever I was experiencing a challenge when it came to my life or my relationships and feeling low, I was thinking the kind of thoughts that were lowering my spirit. I began to see how my thoughts and feelings were directly linked to one another. Whatever I was thinking, I would feel.
I realized how whenever I thought that life was challenging it didn’t really mean that it was, but rather that I was seeing life as challenging.
And when we understand this that our experience is coming purely from our own thinking in the moment, we naturally stop holding onto those thoughts that make us feel bad.
Our level of awareness goes up and we become aware of the fact that as soon as our thinking settles down, our experience shifts. We become aware of the beauty of our own resilience.
The natural state of our being
Whenever we let go of our stressful thinking in the moment and our thinking calms down, we are brought back to this place of balance within us. We are drawn back to this natural state of our being.
No matter of the challenges that we experience or how bad we feel, we always come back home.
Whenever we get lost in our thinking and life feels hard, the same thing always happens in our minds. We are caught up in our own negative thinking and cannot see the world clearly from the level of the thinking that we are experiencing.
However as soon as we let go and stop actively thinking about our stressful thoughts, we are always drawn back to balance — everyone of us.
Our thinking calms down, we begin to see things more as they are and feel better.
And there’s nothing we need to do for all this to happen. The beauty of our resilience is that it’s rather the less we do — the less thinking we create in our minds — the more easily we are always drawn back to this place of present moment again.
Resilience and our relationships
How does our resilience then help us when it comes to our relationships?
Well, we can begin to see how the less worried we are about the problems that we are facing, the better spirit we are in and the more connected we can feel to the other person.
Whenever we argue with them we can begin to recognize how we are caught up in our thinking in the moment, and at some point when our thinking calms down we are both brought back to this place of love again.
We can realize how when the other person says something that hurts us, we don’t need to take their words so seriously, because their level of understanding about life is momentarily low, and as soon as their thinking settles down they’ll be back in this place of balance with us.
And even those times when relationships end and we lose a loved one, we may begin to see how we can still be happy and feel the love.
Because just like any other feeling these feelings of love and happiness are always created from within, and they are here for us to experience as soon as our thinking calms down and we come back to the present moment again.
The beauty and power of our resilience
The more we begin to realize how this is true and recognize our own resilience, the more we begin to find ourselves in these beautiful feelings of the present moment — both when it comes to our life and relationships.
As soon as our mind calms down, every single one of us we experience peace, love and contentment.
Today if life still feels hard for me — which it sometimes does because the nature of life is that our level of awareness goes up and down — I know that there’s nothing to worry about.
Because I know that despite of the uncomfortable feelings that I might be experiencing, my level of understanding about life is momentarily low. And as soon as I let go of my thinking in the moment and stop actively thinking about my stressful thoughts, I’ll always be brought back to the beauty of the present moment again.
I know that I’ll have a completely new experience of whatever it is that I momentarily think that I’m up against in life.
And when this happens and I’m brought back to the present moment again, either my challenges completely disappear or I know what to do. From this state of mind I may even be able to see these so called challenges of mine as something to be grateful for and something that are here to help me in life.
This is the beauty and the power of our resilience, the gift that we are all blessed with.
We are all always brought back to this place of love, balance and deeper understanding within us, whether we are awake enough to realize this or not.
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