“A permanent energy field of a pure and high frequency will arise between you. No illusion, no pain, no conflict, nothing that is not you, and nothing that is not love can survive in it. This represents the fulfillment of the divine, transpersonal purpose of your relationship.” —Eckhart Tolle
I stumbled upon this quote from Eckhart Tolle the other day and it stopped me for a moment. Because once again I saw how far I had come in my relationship with my partner.
Once again I saw the promise of this understanding that I’ve been blessed to come in contact with and the effect it has had on my relationships.
The promise that when we look to the direction of what creates our experience, when we look to the direction of our true nature, we cannot help but to enjoy relationships that get only better over time.
We cannot help but to enjoy relationships where the love that we get to experience deepens, and transforms our experience along the way.
Things have not definitely always been this way for me. There was a time when I used to look for love outside of myself. When I used to look for love in the other person, without recognizing what I already had within me.
— And I suffered.
Because I was caught up in the illusion created by my own thinking, and experiencing the lack that was never really out there. I thought that in order for me to find love, that other person needed to show up into my life.
However he never showed up.
Not until I first found the feeling from within me. Not until I found the feeling of love from within and saw myself already as whole and complete.
When I recognized that there was no other person that could make me feel loved, but the feeling always came from within, I found the true source of the feeling.
Since then I’ve never looked back. I’ve never mistaken what creates the feeling when it comes to love.
Finding that relationship that I had been looking for was never the ultimate fulfillment of my desire to find love — It was the result of that.
Since then I’ve not only been able to share my love with my partner, but also grow together as a couple.
There has definitely been times when things have felt hard. Not because of the other person or our relationship, but simply because of the nature of our human experience, and how we all from time to time get caught up in our thinking.
It has created the perfect learning experience for us, time after time again. Not only for us to be able to enjoy all that love that we share with one and another, but also to allow it to deepen.
It has allowed us to get still and recognize how from the stillness of our minds our understanding has deepened and we have found new levels of this love.
And yet it still completely surprises me that I’m able to say that we are in that place that Eckhart Tolle has so beautifully put into words.
In that place where nothing but love survives, where there’s fulfillment and love and the words divine, transpersonal purpose of our relationship deeply resonates with me.
That doesn’t mean that we’ll never experience conflicts again when it comes to our relationship. No I don’t believe so.
But what it means is that we’re both more and more able to see beyond our own personal thinking to that place of love within us. And we’re able to allow the feeling to deepen within us and recognize the power that connects us.
Illusion, pain and conflict may arise from time to time, but nothing but love can survive.
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