This was something that didn’t even dawn on me before — That we were all living in our own separate realities.
It wasn’t until I learned to see where my experience of other people was coming from.
When I learned to see that my experience of others was always coming from within, from my own perception of them, I naturally began to recognize how the same was true for everyone.
I began to see how there were no two people who could think exactly alike, but we were all experiencing life through our own thinking.
Understanding this doesn’t only allow us to begin to see more what is true, but also our relationships get affected.
Whenever our understanding deepens and we begin to come more from that place of deeper understanding, we naturally begin to enjoy better relationships.
Understanding separate realities
What separate realities simply means is that we are all living in our own realities.
Despite of what we are used to believe we cannot experience life. We can only ever experience our own thinking about life. Life is coming to us via the power of thought.
The way we see life is always in some degree different to the way another person sees things. For example there’s no two people who experience a movie they are watching in an exactly the same way.
And when we begin to see how this is true, how we cannot think exactly alike, this does something to us.
It allows us to drop our expectations and become more understanding. It allows us to view other people more through the eyes of acceptance and unconditional love.
When our relationships get affected
When we begin to see that another person cannot think exactly like us, it stops making sense for us to expect them to do so.
We begin to see that we can still feel close and connected to them whether or not we think the same. This is because the feeling of connection and love also always come from within us.
We start to show up more from that place of acceptance and unconditional love and get more curious about the other person’s point of view.
We begin to recognize more that our point of view is not the only right one and we become better listeners.
This feels good to the other person and they can sense our acceptance and love. They can relax more in our company which will allow them to begin to show up more from this same place of love within them too.
And from this place not only do we feel closer to one another, but also we see other people more for who they really are.
Seeing more what is true
Whenever we come from that place of love and understanding we are being present. We are being more present to the reality than what we would be, if we were caught up in our thinking.
Whenever we are not in our heads, experiencing our stressful, negative and judgmental thinking, we see the world more clearly.
Not only do we feel closer to the other person, but also we begin to see them more for who they are. From this place we see the world more objectively and take into account the other person’s point of view, instead of blindly believing that our way of seeing life is the only right one.
We do better when it comes to our relationships, we argue less and find more creative solutions and in general do better when it comes to our lives.
We are more open minded and open hearted and the deeper understanding that we are experiencing allows us to see more what is true and our relationships to deepen.
Allowing our understanding and love to deepen
Understanding separate realities allows us to wake up back to the reality, whenever we get too caught up in our thinking about other people.
It allows us to see more through the eyes of unconditional love and understanding, accepting the other person more for who they are — And as a result of that our relationships get affected.
Not only do we begin to feel closer to the other person but also we begin to find ourselves more in the same place when it comes to our relationships.
What I have began to see when it comes to my relationship is that the more my understanding and love has deepened, the more we have began to find ourselves wanting the same things exactly at the same timing — Which has further allowed our love to deepen.
Understanding separate realities doesn’t only allow us to feel more connected, see the other person more for who they really are and deepen the feeling of love and understanding when it comes to our relationships, but it also allows our realities melt more into one.
We begin to see what is more true, allow our understanding and love to deepen and begin to experience more of the oneness of life.
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