I’ve been feeling off lately. So it’s no wonder for me that I haven’t felt that connected to my partner than what I usually feel.
Previously, if I hadn’t had the understanding that I have today I would have seen this as a problem.
I would have looked to the direction of the content of my thinking. For all the reasons I could come up with why I was feeling disconnected and I would have tried to bring that feeling of closeness back.
However today, I see things differently.
Because I recognize that the feeling of connection that I feel towards my partner has very little to do with the actual relationship and everything to do with my level of understanding in the moment.
I used to believe that I needed to find that right person in order fo me to feel the love and connection that I wanted to experience.
Ironically it was when I found that feeling of love within me and began to feel connected to the people around me, I found the right relationship.
That’s when my ideas about love were replaced with this deeper understanding and love.
Love is not something that is dependent on the other person. We don’t need another person to experience love. But it’s a force within us that we can experience when our minds become calm and still.
When we have a quiet mind, mind free from excessive thinking we experience love. We go from the personal to the impersonal and connect with that source within us.
We align ourselves with that what is.
It’s scientifically proven that we are all connected. What stops us from experiencing this connection is a busy mind. When we get out of alignment and don’t recognize our power to create our momentary experience.
In simplicity, the only thing that can stop us from experiencing that feeling of connection is a thought.
When we begin to spend too much time in our heads thinking about our problems, we lose the feeling of closeness. Not because of the connection suddenly disappears, but because our focus is on something else. Our focus is on our own thoughts and ideas about that what is.
For us to find that feeling of love and connection again, the only thing that we need is to shift our thinking. Become still and allow our experience to change.
There’s nothing that we need to do because the connection already exists. We just need to find the feeling again. And as soon as we let go and stop engaging with our thinking we are always brought back home.
We are brought back home, back to love.
Today when I lose that feeling of connection I don’t look to the direction of the other person or my relationship.
But I look within.
I look within and that’s how I find myself back home. Experiencing the love that was never lost, but only momentarily covered by my own personal thinking.
What can we do when we lose the feeling of connection and feel disconnected to the other person?
There’s nothing that we need to do.
The more we recognize this and how the connection can never lost, the quicker we are brought back home.
Back to that place of love within us that allows us to experience the magic of our relationships and these deeper feelings of love and connection.
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